We all have negative people in our
lives that will tell us we can’t do something when we know we can. These people may not be trying to squash your
motivation intentionally however. They
may just be negative by nature.
Sometimes negative people grew up in a home with other negative people
and no one to believe in them.
Other times negative people spawn from
difficult life situations, like the death of a child or their spouse. No matter what the issue is, these negative
people can be damaging to your self-esteem and your motivation. If you want to stay on course to success, you
will need to do a few things in order to disallow the negative people in your
life to negate your motivation. Use these
tips and suggestions to help you get rid of the negativity and get on with your
life.
Distance Yourself
When it comes to negative influences in
your life, there is one main thing you can do to rid your mind of any
negativity. The thing to do is distance
yourself from these people. If it is a
negative friend, simply choose not to hang out with him or her. If it is a negative relative, choose not to
spend extra time with the person. While
it is not a good idea to cut off contact to these people without discussing
why, it is your decision if you want to be around negative people.
If the negative person is someone close
to you, try having a little talk about the issue to see if you can help them
get rid of that negative attitude. They
may not be aware that they are negative and may want to try to change. If you have tried to talk to the person about
your concerns with their attitude, and nothing has changed, you may want to
consider the person as someone who is harmful to your attitude and act accordingly.
Choose What You Hear
Sometimes there are people in your life
that you cannot escape. These people may
be immediate family members or co-workers.
If you are stuck dealing with a negative person that has an impact on
your motivation, then you still have options.
The thing to do is to choose what you hear. If someone goes on and on about how you
cannot lose weight because you never get exercise or eating in unhealthy
manners, just chant to yourself that you can do it. When they try to bring you down, bring
yourself up with positive talk.
You can choose what you hear. Perhaps they are saying that you can’t do
something because they lack the motivation to do it themselves. Maybe they are overweight and have tried to
lose weight. When they failed, they
might assume that everyone will fail.
Sometimes negative people do this because it makes them feel better
about themselves. So, keep that in mind
when they are using negative talk, you can turn it into more motivation for you
to succeed.
Decide Who You Are
When you know who you are, negative
people will have no impact on you. Even
if you sit and listen to someone negative talk for thirty minutes, if you are a
positive person, you will not be pulled into their negativity. You have the choice whether or not you are
positive.
When you decide that no matter what you
will be positive, you will be more comfortable dealing with negative
people. You will look at them with
sorrow and sympathy because you will know how destructive negative talk can be
to everyone. Knowing who you are can
help you get through any negative situation with a negative person.
If you want to succeed easily, you
should surround yourself with positive and successful people that will fuel
your motivation. Those negative people
in your life will only damage your motivation.
You can choose to eliminate them from your life or you can choose to
learn to deal with the negativity without becoming negative yourself.
Try to stay focused and realize that
just because someone else is negative doesn’t mean you have to be negative
too. No matter what you do, you can keep
that motivation and positive attitude and be a real success!